Ai c\u0169ng th\u00edch khen c\u1ea3 v\u00e0 s\u00e1ch \u201c\u0110\u1eafc Nh\u00e2n T\u00e2m\u201d c\u1ee7a Dale Carnegie \u0111\u00e3 khuy\u00ean \u201cCon ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00a0th\u00e8m kh\u00e1t l\u1eddi khen, v\u1eady h\u00e3y t\u1eb7ng cho h\u1ecd nh\u01b0ng n\u00ean t\u1eb7ng \u0111\u00fang\u201d.<\/p>\n
T\u00f4i nh\u1edb m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u danh ng\u00f4n Ph\u00e1p \u201cK\u1ebb ch\u00ea ta \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y ta, k\u1ebb khen ta sai l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a ta\u201d. Ng\u1eabm ngh\u0129 l\u1ea1i th\u1ea5y r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00fang, ch\u00ea \u0111\u00fang ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n nh\u01b0ng khen sai th\u00ec \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9!H\u00f4m nay t\u00f4i xin b\u00e0n \u0111\u00f4i ch\u00fat v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 Khen th\u1ebf n\u00e0o cho \u0111\u00fang\/v\u1eeba<\/em>. \u00a0Mong nh\u1eadn th\u00eam \u00fd ki\u1ebfn t\u1eeb th\u00e2n h\u1eefu. \u0110\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i tham lu\u1eadn, c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i b\u00e0i ph\u00ea b\u00ecnh. Ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t v\u00e0 n\u00eau \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n<\/em>. V\u00ec th\u1ebf c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ed5 t\u00fac th\u00eam \u00fd ki\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ho\u00e0n ch\u1ec9nh h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n T\u00f4i xin gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u00a0trong ph\u1ea1m vi \u201cinternet\u201d. K\u1ec3 t\u1eeb khi internet ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n, th\u00ec net \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o thu\u1eadn l\u1ee3i cho nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ebft. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc kia, vi\u1ebft v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u0103ng b\u00e1o \u0111\u1ec3 chia s\u1ebb l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n. B\u00e2y gi\u1edd tha h\u1ed3 vi\u1ebft v\u00e0 t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 n\u1ea3y ra v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u201c\u00e1o th\u1ee5ng v\u00e1i nhau\u201d tr\u00ean di\u1ec5n \u0111\u00e0n \u1ea3o ng\u00e0y m\u1ed9t nhi\u1ec1u. Song song \u201c\u00c1o th\u1ee5ng v\u00e1i nhau\u201d l\u00e0 \u201cg\u01b0\u01a1m s\u00fang \u0111\u1ecd nhau\u201d.<\/p>\n T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng \u0111i s\u00e2u v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c m\u1ed9t netter \u0111\u00e3 l\u1ea5y nhi\u1ec1u t\u00ean \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m c\u00e1i vi\u1ec7c bu\u1ed3n c\u01b0\u1eddi sau \u0111\u00e2y: t\u1ef1 fw b\u00e0i m\u00ecnh, t\u1ef1 khen m\u00ecnh, t\u1ef1 \u0111em b\u00e0i m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o kho, t\u1ef1 ch\u1ea5m \u0111i\u1ec3m cao (\u1edf v\u00e0i web, cho ch\u1ea5m \u0111i\u1ec3m)\u2026T\u00f4i ch\u00fa tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khen xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ef1c.<\/p>\n M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ecdc m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i v\u0103n\/th\u01a1 v\u00e0 th\u1ea5y x\u00fac \u0111\u1ed9ng, h\u1ea1p \u00fd m\u00ecnh th\u00ec khen l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. Nh\u01b0ng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 l\u00e0 khen ra sao? T\u00f4i quan s\u00e1t v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ea5y hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng sau \u0111\u00e2y x\u1ea3y ra:<\/p>\n M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m th\u01a1\/vi\u1ebft v\u0103n v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch n\u00e0y n\u1ebfu khen \u0111\u00fang m\u1ee9c th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng sao nh\u01b0ng kh\u1ed5 n\u1ed7i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen \u0111\u00e3 ph\u00f3ng tay qu\u00e1 \u0111\u00e0 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 khen qu\u00e1 l\u1ed1. H\u1ecd d\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi x\u01b0ng t\u1ee5ng h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c \u201c\u0111ao to b\u00faa l\u1edbn\u201d nh\u01b0 v\u1ea7n th\u01a1\/v\u0103n \u00a0tuy\u1ec7t t\u00e1c, v\u00f4 ti\u1ec1n kho\u00e1ng h\u1eadu, t\u1ef1 c\u1ed5 ch\u00ed kim \u2026Th\u1ebf l\u00e0 v\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ea5y ng\u1ee9a m\u1eaft b\u00e8n \u201ccho\u1ea3ng\u201d! \u0110i\u1ec3n h\u00ecnh c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00e2y kh\u00f4ng l\u00e2u, t\u00f4i ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t v\u1ee5 \u1edf net: m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i th\u01a1 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng lu\u1eadt c\u1ee7a netter A v\u00ec \u201cb\u1ecb khen\u201d v\u00e0 \u201cb\u1ecb repost\u201d b\u1edfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00e1i m\u1ed9 m\u00e0 cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng \u0111\u00e2m ra h\u1ea1i t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3. M\u1ed9t netter B, \u00a0\u201cc\u00f3 l\u1ebd\u201d t\u1ef1 cho l\u00e0 m\u00ecnh \u201cgi\u1ecfi\u201d th\u01a1 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng lu\u1eadt, \u00a0\u0111\u00e3 v\u1ea1ch nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i m\u00e0 netter n\u00e0y cho l\u00e0 l\u1ed7i th\u01a1 \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng trong t\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m c\u1ee7a A ! Nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, v\u00ec y\u00eau qu\u00e1 m\u00e0 th\u00e0nh h\u1ea1i nhau.<\/p>\n V\u00ec th\u1ebf khi khen n\u00ean khen \u0111\u00fang v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eebng th\u00eam c\u00e1i m\u00e0 t\u00f4i g\u1ecdi \u0111\u00f9a l\u00e0 cho qu\u00e1 nhi\u1ec1u \u201c\u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00e8n\u201d ! Thi\u1ec3n \u00fd c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n t\u00f4i l\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 vi\u1ebft nh\u01b0 sau \u201cC\u00e1 nh\u00e2n t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t th\u00edch b\u00e0i v\u0103n\/th\u01a1 n\u00e0y v\u00ec \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i h\u1ed9 t\u00e2m tr\u1ea1ng c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i\u201d hay \u201cT\u00f4i th\u00edch c\u00e2u vi\u1ebft \/c\u00e2u th\u01a1 n\u00e0y v\u00ec v\u1edbi t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t hay:..\u201d hay \u201c b\u00e0i th\u01a1 gi\u1ea3n d\u1ecb m\u00e0 c\u1ea3m \u0111\u1ed9ng qu\u00e1. \u0110\u1ecdc d\u00f2ng ch\u1eef sau, t\u00f4i th\u1ea5y nao nao\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n \u0110\u00f3, khen nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf v\u1eeba l\u00e0m vui l\u00f2ng t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 v\u1eeba kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u201cng\u1ee9a m\u1eaft\u201d ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef x\u01b0ng t\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ea1i kh\u00e1i nh\u01b0 \u201cTh\u01a1 tuy\u1ec7t t\u00e1c. V\u0103n v\u00f4 ti\u1ec1n h\u00e1n. Vi\u1ebft th\u1eadt kh\u00f4ng ai vi\u1ebft b\u1eb1ng!!!\u201d<\/p>\n V\u1ec1 ph\u00eda ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen th\u00ec c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n n\u00e0o? Ngo\u00e0i nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 b\u00e0i v\u0103n\/th\u01a1 \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ea1p \u00fd m\u00ecnh, c\u00f2n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng v\u1ecb c\u00f3 \u00fd th\u00edch l\u00e0 k\u1ebft b\u1ea1n th\u00eam b\u00e8 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch khen t\u01b0\u1edbi s\u01b0\u1ee3i<\/em>. B\u00e0i n\u00e0o c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khen m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch th\u00e1i qu\u00e1, ch\u1ec9 c\u1ed1 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u00e0m t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u00edch\/vui v\u00e0 s\u1ebd y\u00eau m\u1ebfn m\u00ecnh. T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 kh\u00e1c ra sao, c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n t\u00f4i r\u1ea5t k\u1ecb nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u201ckhen \u0111\u00e3i b\u00f4i\u201dnh\u01b0 th\u1ebf.<\/p>\n L\u00e0m sao bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0 \u201ckhen \u0111\u00e3i b\u00f4i\u201d? Thi\u1ec3n \u00fd t\u00f4i l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t v\u00e0 th\u1ea5y b\u00e0i m\u00ecnh vi\u1ebft c\u0169ng v\u1eeba ph\u1ea3i nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd \u201ch\u00f3t l\u00ean t\u1eadn m\u00e2y xanh\u201d, hay h\u1ecd d\u00f9ng nh\u1eefng danh t\u1eeb \u201c\u0111ao to b\u00faa l\u1edbn\u201d nh\u01b0 \u201canh l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u1ea5t anh h\u00f9ng, ch\u1ecb l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi r\u1ea5t anh th\u01b0\u201d th\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khen \u201c\u0111\u00e3i b\u00f4i\u201d. Tuy v\u1eady n\u1ebfu t\u00f4i vi\u1ebft nh\u01b0 tr\u00ean s\u1ebd c\u00f3 v\u1ecb b\u1eaft b\u1ebb \u201cNh\u01b0ng ch\u00ednh t\u00f4i c\u0169ng t\u1ef1 th\u1ea5y th\u01a1\/v\u0103n c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i v\u00f4 ti\u1ec1n kho\u00e1ng h\u1eadu v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta khen t\u00f4i l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang kia m\u00e0?\u201d. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, t\u00f4i xin mi\u1ec5n c\u00f3 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn!<\/p>\n T\u00f4i c\u00f2n nh\u1edb \u1edf m\u1ed9t di\u1ec5n \u0111\u00e0n kia, c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00e2y kho\u1ea3ng ba n\u0103m, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t netter r\u1ea5t th\u00edch khen ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. C\u00f3 khi netter A n\u00e0y khen \u0111\u00fang, c\u00f3 khi th\u00e1i qu\u00e1. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00f3m l\u1ea1i netter A n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 \u201cshow\u201d cho m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ea5y ch\u1ecb l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi hi\u1ec1n\/ngoan\/d\u1ecbu d\u00e0ng\/d\u1ec5 m\u1ebfn\/\u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3m t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Nh\u01b0ng r\u1ed3i m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1eb9p tr\u1eddi, m\u1ed9t netter B kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 m\u00f4 t\u1ea3 ch\u1ecb nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 \u201cM\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng\u201d ! Netter B \u00a0vi\u1ebft kh\u00e1 \u201cn\u1eb7ng\u201d nh\u01b0ng t\u00f4i th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u00ec ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef chanh chua v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 d\u00ed d\u1ecfm khi B \u00a0t\u1ea3 \u201c \u2026th\u1eddi gian \u0111\u1ea7u, ch\u1ec9 s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00eda. C\u00e0ng v\u1ec1 sau c\u00e0ng ph\u00e1t \u0111\u1ea1t, c\u00f4 s\u1ea3n xu\u1ea5t th\u00eam \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00e8n, m\u1eadt ong\u2026\u201d! B\u00e0i vi\u1ebft kh\u00e1 d\u00e0i v\u1edbi l\u1ed1i vi\u1ebft ch\u00e2m ch\u00edch r\u1ea5t hay, ti\u1ebfc l\u00e0 t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng l\u01b0u tr\u1eef. T\u00f4i c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u00fa v\u1ecb v\u00ec c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n t\u00f4i k\u1ecb nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen v\u00f4 t\u1ed9i v\u1ea1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf.<\/p>\n Khen qu\u00e1 l\u1ed1 l\u00e0m h\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh \u00e1i m\u1ed9 m\u00e0 khen sai l\u1ea1i c\u00e0ng h\u1ea1i h\u01a1n. <\/em>T\u00f4i xin ch\u1ee9ng minh, m\u1ed9t anh A vi\u1ebft v\u0103n v\u00e0 v\u0103n anh c\u0169ng b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng. Gi\u00e1 nh\u01b0 b\u1ea1n h\u1eefu kh\u00f4ng h\u1ea1i anh ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng x\u01b0ng t\u1ee5ng anh th\u00e1i qu\u00e1 th\u00ec anh s\u1ebd vi\u1ebft c\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng hay h\u01a1n. Kh\u1ed5 n\u1ed7i, c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c l\u00ean m\u00e2y xanh ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ed3 g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 n\u00ean b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft n\u00e0o c\u0169ng khen t\u01b0\u1edbi s\u01b0\u1ee3i h\u1ed9t sen! V\u00ec khen nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00ean nh\u1eefng netters c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i, v\u1edbi l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng, h\u1ecd c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e0nh l\u00e0m l\u01a1 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn d\u00f9 th\u00e2m t\u1eadm h\u1ecd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ch\u1ec9 ra nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft. L\u00e2u ng\u00e0y ch\u1ea7y th\u00e1ng, A ng\u1ee7 qu\u00ean tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ec9nh danh v\u1ecdng h\u00e3o, c\u1ee9 ng\u1ee1 m\u00ecnh vi\u1ebft v\u0103n l\u00e0 s\u1ed1 m\u1ed9t, kh\u00f4ng ai h\u01a1n v\u00e0 ki\u00eau c\u0103ng t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eafc. Cho \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t ng\u00e0y, \u0111\u1ee5ng chuy\u1ec7n, anh A theo m\u1eedng c\u0169 l\u00e0 \u201c\u00e1p \u0111\u1ea3o\u201d ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c b\u1eb1ng l\u1ed1i vi\u1ebft v\u0103n \u201ch\u1ed5 l\u1ed1n\/\u0111\u1ed1ng b\u00f9i nh\u00f9i\u201d c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 anh ng\u1ee1 l\u00e0 v\u0103n v\u00f4 ti\u1ec1n H\u00e1n! Xui x\u1ebbo cho anh, \u201ccao nh\u00e2n t\u1eafc h\u1eefu cao nh\u00e2n tr\u1ecb\u201d, th\u1ebf l\u00e0 v\u1ecb \u201ccao nh\u00e2n h\u01a1n anh kia\u201d \u0111\u00e3 vi\u1ebft m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i ph\u00e2n t\u00edch \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 n\u00f4i dung c\u1ee7a b\u00e0i anh A. K\u1ebft lu\u1eadn, n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khen sai t\u1ee9c khen qu\u00e1 l\u1ed1, khen b\u1eeba t\u1eeb b\u1ea1n h\u1eefu,<\/em> ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd anh A r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng \u201cd\u1edf kh\u00f3c d\u1edf c\u01b0\u1eddi\u201d nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf! \u0110\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u00ed d\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c khen sai \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 x\u1ea5u v\u00e0 v\u00ec th\u1ebf danh ng\u00f4n m\u1edbi ph\u00e1n \u201cK\u1ebb khen ta sai l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a ta\u201d<\/em> v\u1eady!<\/p>\n Vi\u1ebft t\u1ea1i th\u00e0nh ph\u1ed1 \u201cc\u1ed5\u201d Montreal<\/p>\n Ho\u00e0ng Lan Chi<\/p>\n 2010<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ai c\u0169ng th\u00edch khen c\u1ea3 v\u00e0 s\u00e1ch \u201c\u0110\u1eafc Nh\u00e2n T\u00e2m\u201d c\u1ee7a Dale Carnegie \u0111\u00e3 khuy\u00ean \u201cCon ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u00a0th\u00e8m kh\u00e1t l\u1eddi khen, v\u1eady h\u00e3y t\u1eb7ng cho h\u1ecd nh\u01b0ng n\u00ean t\u1eb7ng \u0111\u00fang\u201d. T\u00f4i nh\u1edb m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u danh ng\u00f4n Ph\u00e1p \u201cK\u1ebb ch\u00ea ta … Continue reading